Gary W. Lewandowski Jr.
There are plenty of reasons why dating your best friend seems like a good idea, particularly if you're feeling burnt out on dating apps and sick of meeting strangers you don't end up clicking with.
You also have insight into their past sexual and romantic history—assuming you share that stuff with each other, because you're best friends. That risk shouldn't necessarily stop you from dating your BFF if it feels right. But before you take that next step or not, there are some things you need to consider.
To learn how to take a more calculated risk when thinking about dating your best friend, we spoke to two relationship experts: sexologist Marla Renee StewartMA, and Kevin A. PattersonM. After the hellscape ofit's normal to feel lonely, sad, and in desperate need of physical intimacy and human connection—but those things alone aren't valid reasons to date your best friend.
If you're going to date your BFF, it has to be because you want them, specifically, and not just because you're trying to fix a you problem.
Patterson adds, "The world is in a strange place due to the pandemic, and we're not all in our normal frames of mind. If they are friends with at least some of their exes, this is a goodStewart explains. You need to do some self-examination, too.
5 things to know before dating your best friend
If you aren't friends with any of them, then be skeptical of whether you'll be able to return to a place of friendship if things go south with your bestie. Could you live without this person in your life?
If you are friends with your exes, think about the type of friendships you have. Are you super close, or is it more of a "we're cordial in a group setting" dynamic?
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The thing is, even if you can return to a place of friendship after you date, it's unlikely that your friendship will be the same as it was before. Be prepared for that change. Of course, you need to have tact when bringing up these topics.
You can't ask them out of the blue, "So, theoretically, would you date your best friend? Perhaps you can frame the conversation by talking about friends with benefits you had.
Or you can say you were reading something about COVID cuffs and heard people were settling down with friends to have a romantic partner during the pandemic. Have they attempted to date a friend in the past? How did it go? Do they have a policy of never hooking up with friends because it gets too messy?
Patterson adds that friendships break down all the time. At the end of the day, we can't make this decision for you. Only you can do your research and make this choice for yourself.
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